Make sure Family Treasures are more than just STUFF
Dying is the last thing most of want to think of let alone talk about, but there are just somethings that need considering. Some of those things are what I wrote about in my newest book A guide to dealing with family treasures so your kids won’t have to – Clean your house before you go.
No, the book isn’t all doom and gloom about dying and who gets what. Well, there is a little of that but mostly is it about getting rid of all the baggage and stuff we accumulate over a hopefully long life. The younger we are, and when I say younger I’m thinking under 70, when we do this the easier it is and will be for everyone. Just to give you and idea on what need looking after here is a short chapter from the book:
Now on to the wonderful days of garage sales, where you found a once coveted lace table cloth. If you were once one of those happy individuals, it’s time to give up old habits. I have on our property a Sea Can full of antiques and garage sale finds that an old friend asked us to keep when she moved out of the country. What she hoped would be her stash for cash when she needed it has become an albatross around her neck. She finds there is no longer a market for it. In addition, where we live out in cow country with nary a neighbor for miles nor a place where garage sales are held, she has little hope for making a killing on it. As we are now making plans to move to a smaller house closer to the city, she is challenged to find a way of getting rid of it from afar.
Another thing for you to remember is that if the desire for antiques is declining, and I know in some places it is not, but in general they are, what will the kids who may not have room for them do? There comes that guilt again. They will have already gone through whatever guilt comes with losing a loved one, and now those feelings will return. It is far easier for us to think that someone will want and cherish the family heirlooms. In some place, they most definitely still do; the question is, will they have a place for it?
Look at some of the designer magazines or even some of the house flipping shows. Most have clean, sleek lines with no oversized bulging china cabinets. Showcases have been replaced with stylish display shelves that won’t hold a collection of heavy vases or porcelain dolls. Some looks don’t include dressers, as they opt for closets with built-ins and sliding doors behind which are rods and drawers all neatly placed.
Perhaps, it is the time to rethink our way of living. Minimalism doesn’t mean doing without, and since we do less of what we used to do, regarding entertaining, minimizing just a little shouldn’t be too much of a burden.
Home sized matters
If you or your family live in a big city, where homes are small and condos are even tinier, space is at a premium. Most of the furniture we had is now way too big to fit in these places.
For storage, there simply is none. When you think about what you are saving for the kids, keep these things in mind. There is a lot more to leave behind than just stuff. Check out my article on Leavings.