Live Well, Live Happy, Live Long

Category: Life (page 1 of 4)

Life takes many turns. These writing cover every turn and turnaround most have faced.

Continuing the Journey of All Things Aging – Which is All of US.

Remember a younger you, but don’t regret your journey to now.

As I continue writing about all things aging, I am reminded that age is just a number.  That age number is much less important than the health numbers I write about.

Even in my  Conscious Aging Course, I put some focus, not all of course, but some on knowing your numbers.

One of the most damaging things related to your health and your stress levels.  there are not stress number but your blood pressure rate is one directly related to the stress in your life.  If you do nothing else with respect to your health, work on reducing your stress.  Here is a link to my course on learning how to stress less available on Skillshare. Click the link below to get access.

Practical Stress Solutions




Family History seems so much better when shared

Don’t let the family history die

It’s part of all our lives



Photos fade images of the mind do not

I am sure, when you go through the old family photos, you will come across pictures that show a piece of the family history. I know I have a picture of my great-great-grandfather, whose first name I never knew, but on the back was written the family last name, Rose. This was an old military picture on thick stock, showing a very stern looking man in uniform. As we asked some of our remaining relatives, we developed a picture of who this man was and his story. When we did it, it didn’t seem to big a deal until one of the grandchildren saw the file and was thrilled that she could use that story for a school project. I had long forgotten that schools often have kids do projects around family. So, it was a bonus on top of the original purpose.



Lasting Images

Create a lasting picture of your children’s children

If you are a parent with grown children with their own children, I would guess you have a lot of pictures of grandchildren. I would also guess you have taken a lot of pictures of the grandkids that your kids don’t have. Since you are gathering family photos, now is the time when you can also create a lasting legacy for your children. Take the photo, title each one, and write your own story about why you took the picture, where you took the picture, and how you feel about the picture.

I can guarantee you when you write about this Leavings (get the book ), these are the leavings your family will be happy you left.


It Ain’t Over ’til its Over – dying is not the end

When I write it ain’t over, it’s because I often write about death and dying, but not in the normal sense.



Coffee and a friend to share it with


Grab a coffee and let's chat about life!

Grab a coffee and let’s chat about life!



I don’t believe in being morbid but I do believe in people being ready for the end. And those that aren’t are usually the ones for whom death is unexpected. A sudden illness, an accident or catastrophe befall them. And while I much of what I write speak to the older generation it applies all of who are getting older.


There is much to done before we go.

The book is a guide to help you clean your house before you go so your kids won’t have to once you’re gone. For me, that is some of what  Leavings my new book speaks to.

That was the gist of my most recent book.  But if you haven’t seen it you can get it here.

When I write that dying is not the end I am not preaching about the meaning of death, I am writing about what and who you leave behind. This is what I prefer to focus on and what you are going to find the book I am currently writing for very specific reasons. Some of that you can read in this Post.

We all leave something when we go I hope to help you leave a lasting legacy.  I do have my reasons and are mostly related to my own family experiences.  While most of my family has passed what I learned from their living and passing is what often write in my books and in my blogs.  The sister blog to this one www.healthywealthyaging.com is where I share some of the things that do not make it into my books.  Here is a link to one of the relevant posts.

There is so much to write about living and grow old and hope to make the journey a pleasant and meaningful one.  I hope you will join me in the discussion.

And I would love to share one of my free short book with you for doing so.

The book is Learn how to be happy, just click HERE to get your free copy.




Aging conjures up thought of Leavings


Death is not the end when you consider what you are leaving behind



Wistful Sky

Wistful Sky

Most of us consider dying as the end and true it is the end of our lives, but it isn’t the END. The vast majority of us leave something behind. That leavings may be family, friends or some other legacy. Sure we think about leaving something behind in the form of insurance.

Just watch TV for a while, and you will no doubt see ads showing families talking how they feel so sorry for the other family who was having a hard time paying for their loved one’s funeral. The message is you need to have insurance; that is what you leave behind and if you don’t then your death is not the end but the start of a financial struggle for those you left behind. And I think it is true, that each of us at a minimum has the responsibility to have enough insurance to cover whatever bills and costs are left when we go.


But that is not all there is to dying.


Sure dying isn’t good for any of us. But the only person that death is the end for is YOU. Once you’re gone, you’re gone, end of the story – For YOU.


What we leave behind can be good or bad, I want to focus on the good.

I believe we live at the most wonderful time ever!  There is so much we can leave behind that will be wonderful and most of all make people happier than we could ever have done at any other time in our lives.  Of course, when we go, there is the immediate feeling of sadness, but after the initial pain, there is so much we can leave them with that can help them get over it sooner.


So for those of us who have not lived in isolation, our death is not the end. We have family, and friends to whom our death means more than just us being gone. I believe we can do more to lessen the effect of our death and to make our death something that helps them in their life more fully. I am not speaking of tangible things. We all leave things behind, what I am talking about is our essence. What is the essence of ourselves that we leave behind?


I am reminded of my granddaughter and even my children who always had this blanket or stuffy toy they could not go sleep without.  I remember their panic if it could not be found.  And I also recall their answer when asked why they need it so much, why wouldn’t another stuffy or blanket do?  The answer was; it smelledLike you or Mommy or like home, and that was what helped them calm down or go to sleep.



sleeping child


What we leave behind is the topic of my next book  titled Leavings, you can get a feel for the content by reading a recent post on the topic by clicking here  LEAVINGS’

Well, when it is our time to go to sleep what will we leave with them to go to sleep?   I know for our kids now in their 40’s their most trusted soothers have now gone.  The blanket at one point disintegrated in the wash.  That stuffy has lost all of its’ inners and the outer somewhere along the way.  So what will they have to soothe them, and make no mistake no matter how old they get they will need something of us to help them through life.


How much do you think about what you will leave behind?

When we are in our 50’s unless we have had some serious illness or someone close to us has died, I would guess there is no thought given to what will be left behind when you are gone.

When we reach our 60’s our thoughts turn to our life and possible death. But beyond the tangible, we need to leave how much consideration do we give to what of US we will leave behind.


So I ask you when that final door closes what of YOU will you to leave behind?


Be sure to stay tuned for LEAVINGS


In the meantime, you might want to pick up the latest book titled Clean Your House Before You Go.


The Older You Get the More Planning Required

Older doesn’t mean less involved

Our adult children are having to plan for everything from work commitments and kid activities to keep their relationships intact. While we on the other hand, or so they think because we are older, have little to do. How wrong they are.

Older people are busy too

Busy aging with places to go and things to do.

Aging Well Takes work especially as your get older

Getting older takes a lot more effort than it used to. If you are in relatively good health, you need to make plans for remaining that way.

If your health is starting to fail then now is the time to plan for making it better.  We all know that there are some things in life that we can’t plan for but there are also a lot we can.

Older doesn’t have to mean unhealthy, or weak.


Why is it that we fail to work on what we can until the last minute.  Most of us have worked hard for someone else all our lives, why not do the same for ourselves.


Work Harder for Ourselves


Everything seems harder the older you get, but when you become your own boss the results are worth it.  So start work for YOU INC.   Create a business plan for living your life, healthier, happier and longer. Keeping mind and body engaged is now your life’s work and a job no one wants to fail at.   But neither should you get stress out about.  Reports are that the older we get for some reason the more stressed we are.  Just when we should be enjoying life we start to worrying about our ability to do so.   Stress is dangerous at any age, but even more so when you get older.  Perhaps you have read my book about it.

Get your copy of “Stress the silent Killer” by Clicking Here.


And if you want to learn how to deal with stress take our free course on managing stress


Stay tuned for my information on my latest books.

You have a lot living to do and when you do you will have more to leave behind that will teach the rest how to live well, live happily and live long.  The book I am currently working on  LEAVINGS’   will show you just how important this is.

You can also read my previous post on the topic by clicking HERE.


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