As I am writing my newest book, I continue to ponder the importance of it to not only Adults with Aging Parents but the parents themselves.
The title of the new book is:
The Hardest Conversation – Helping Aging Parents
I am of course writing it from my perspective as the aging parent, but I want to ensure that while I share my concerns, about the inevitable “conversation,” that the feelings of my children are also address. This will not be a good time for either, and my goal with this book is to make it as painless and stressless as possible.
So to that end, I thought I would share with you the Chapter Headings and to ask if I am missing any critical pieces.
Timing the Talk
Tell me Why Not What
Speak to me, not at me
Wishes, Wants, and Reality
Stress Times Two
Whose needs are being met
Physical and Psychological are different
What the future holds and how your parent’s health stacks up
Mental process changes
Give me Options Not Opinions
Easing me in not out
Whew, that’s done – now what?
What we decided, what we agreed, what’s left?
If you are of a mind, please provide me your feedback on the topics I have chosen and let me know what your think. You can do so in the comments or on Twitter @koyamaRuth
Aging in Place is the current term for getting old at home. But, if you were to do a search online you won’t find much that will actually give you any idea how to do that. Sure, there are Doctors, nurses and resource sites all over the web. The problem is they don’t provide you with any concrete guidelines that will prepare you for aging at home. That what my newly revised book intends to fix. It is a roadmap, a how to, or what to do if you in fact do want to age at home.
I just finished having it edited and while I am putting the finishing touches on it why don’t you take a look at the new cover for AGING SAFELY AT HOME, NOT IN A HOME and let me know what you think of it. In the next post, I will share the table comments and you can let me know if you think I have missed something you want to know.
Many people have written about “aging gracefully”, being a senior myself I am more concerned about “aging safely” and that is why it is the title of my new book. If we are safe and allowed to do so at home, then it is much easier to accept age and doing so gracefully.
As we age and as you will see in many of my book I encourage people to just keep moving. Music, as we oldies knew, was something we actually move to. Consider this one and how easy it is to just sway along with it.
I didn’t say we had do the rock and roll of the 50s’ and 60s’. Any movement is better than none.